EXCLUSIVE: Anna Kai’s New Podcast Is Brutal – In the Best Way Possible
In conversation with us, Kai discusses her new podcast deal with iconic guests, and delivering brutal dating advice to the girls.
Every girl needs that big sister or bestie who has (almost) all of the answers – that’s Anna Kai button at the bottom. It will turn gray and the text above will go from ON to TikTok GRWM’s, Kai is ready to take her tough sex and dating tips into the world of podcasting. In this interview, the viral creator sat down with us to discuss her new show Brutally Anna launching via the fwd. network.
Share this article trends Whos your favorite guest on the podcast this season, Brutally Anna doesn’t shy away from a single topic. From men who cheat to the type of women who should marry them, the 42-episode season will feature the likes of Bravo TV’s Katie Maloney, Serena Kerrigan, Cyrus Veyssi and more.
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Whether you’re rebuilding after a heartbreak or struggling to navigate the dating pool while practicing self-love, Kai says “I hope that my listeners will find Brutally Anna to be a validation of whatever life they choose to live,” she said.
So what gives Kai the credentials to drag us? “My advice comes from my own failings,” she told us. If you missed it, NYC-based influencer, aka @maybeboth, first went viral after sharing her first dating story. The viral video, like many of her best moments, brought women across the app to her comments section to share their stories, too, marking a long-standing girlhood trend on the TikTok app: sharing your truth in hopes to help the next woman.
Brutal? Yes, but Kai’s honesty proves also to be refreshing, while holding women accountable.
Keep reading for our interview with Kai and the best moments from Brutally Anna.
Who’s your favorite guest on the podcast this season?
I don’t have a favorite guest as much as I have a favorite moment from each guest’s interview. There’s a moment in Katie Maloney‘s interview where she discusses removing the access to herself when she realizes a man is treating her as entertainment rather than a relationship. I think this is such an important sentiment because so many women equate contact with care, when in reality, he’s not reaching out because he cares, he’s reaching out because he’s bored.
In my interview with Kelly Rizzo, she discusses the importance of being able to find joy and laughter, even in the face of her husband’s death, not because there was anything funny about losing her husband, but because laughter can also be a way we cope with grief. And, in my first episode with Violet Benson, she talks about how every man is the right man at the right time, because, in her words, “we were lessons for each other, not love.”
School of Sustainability?
As someone who scripts out virtually all of my short-form content, I wanted a platform to unpack all the topics I’ve already been discussing in ninety seconds or less with longer-form content in a more spontaneous manner. My guests have taught me so much about the shared human experience and how, no matter what walk of life we come from, we all share the same struggles with finding love, acceptance, and the will to carry on when everything around you wants to stop. With the assortment of guests who have all charted their own, oftentimes unconventional paths in life, I hope that my listeners will find Brutally Anna to be a validation of whatever life they choose to live, even if it’s a life that looks a bit different from everyone else’s.
What’s the boldest topic discussed on Brutally Anna this sexologist-approved sex toy is the?
GRWMs, Kai is ready to take her tough Lindsey Metselaar, we discuss men who serially cheat and the types of women who should marry those men. For better or worse, there are men who are incapable of staying faithful who end up getting married in traditional, monogamous, relationships to women who either don’t know or don’t want to know about the true nature of the man they’re with. I think it’s an uncomfortable subject because none of us want to believe that we’re marrying the serial philanderer, but some of us do, and it’s important to understand where each of our personal boundaries lie with cheating and whether it’s a deal breaker or not.
Can you spill on the most brutal dating advice you’ve ever given?
Perhaps the most brutal piece of advice I give on a consistent basis is to the women who come to me asking me how to leave a good man that they know is not the right man. I get so many questions from people about how they’ve avoided breaking up with someone out of fear of hurting a good person, because so much of the time, we leave not because the person we’re with is the devil reincarnate, but because in the process of dating, we’ve discovered that they’re not a long-term fit. It’s almost easier to leave the abusive, manipulative man in many ways because we can villainize our ex, but what happens when we have to be the one to break off a relationship with a good man?
“Not leaving the man who treats you poorly, or the situationship that will never go anywhere, or “the good guy but not the right guy”, you’re not removing the pain from your life, you’re deferring it.”
My advice comes from my own failings, and it always boils down to the fact that we have to be willing to be the bad guy. We have to be willing to be hated, not just by our exes, but potentially their families, friends, etc., because our unwillingness to be the villain of the relationship keeps so many of us chained to people who were only meant to be in our lives for a season, not for a lifetime. We have to be willing to break his heart and bear the repercussions of said broken heart, so that we can free not just ourselves, but free the men who deserve better than a woman who is only with him because her ego is too fragile to leave him.
Is that the most common question you’ve received? “Should I leave him?”
Yes. The most common question I get in my DMs usually boils down to the simple question of “should I stay or should I leave?” The iteration of that question is usually followed by a lengthy explanation of why she wants to stay, but all the reasons he’s giving her to leave. As much as I love my biddies (my term of endearment for my followers), I always remind them that, well-meaning as I may be, I am an unqualified stranger on the internet, and if they’ve reached this point where they are willing to trust me with the answer to that question, they already know the answer, they’re just waiting for someone else’s voice to validate it. Spoiler: the answer is usually, “You should leave.”
that might make listeners clutch their pearls?
I wish every woman understood that deferred pain is not an effective pain management tool. That by not leaving the man who treats you poorly, or the situationship that will never go anywhere, or “the good guy but not the right guy,” you’re not removing the pain from your life, you’re deferring it. And, not only are you deferring it, you’re prolonging it. It’s akin to peeling off a band-aid that’s been on too long so slowly that you feel every single hair on your arm being plucked off with it, rather than ripping it off all at once and letting it burn, but also, letting it pass. So often, we procrastinate our pain only to realize that by allowing more time to pass, we’ve only compounded our problems.
Oh, and beyond the concept of pain, I hope every woman learns to dine alone, and no, not sitting at the bar where it’s deemed “socially appropriate” to dine alone. I mean, if you have the disposable income to treat yourself to a fancy dinner out at a table for two on a Friday night, you should do that. It will be uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it, the more you realize that nice things aren’t reserved for people in relationships, and that sometimes, fine dining is more enjoyable when you don’t have to worry about entertaining a man sitting across the table from you while you’re in between bites. Get the table for the two, but for one, and have the courage to take up space, maybe not just at the table, but in your life.
This interview has been condensed for clarity.
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