Ask a (S)expert: "Why Do I Keep Ending up in Situationships?"
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“Why am I always in situationships and not relationships?”
Hey bae! This is a great question I’m sure more than one bae in the chat has. Why? Situationships are a more recent term, but we’ve watched women navigate them for generations – ahem, our favorite reference Carrie Bradshaw from SATC. Finding yourself in situationships is half the problem – so you’re asking the right question.
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On that note, are you afraid of sharing your feelings? This “relationship” style could be your go-to because it allows you to avoid vulnerability.
Constantly finding yourself in situationships can be a sign of low self-worth, too. When you have to end a situation with someone, do you hesitate because you’re unsure if you can find someone better? This is a clear sign you’re settling.
Lastly, you may also lack intention or boundaries while dating. Truthfully, it sounds like you’re hoping for a committed relationship. Try making a list of nonnegotiables, with lack of commitment being one of them, and another list of things you’re excited about within partnership. When dating, steer clear of nonnegotiables to save yourself time. Sometimes, all you have to do is set an intention.
The bottom line is: situationships are inconsistent, with no future planning and an overall fear of commitment. Be honest with yourself about what you desire and don’t waver from that. Anything less, and you might as well gear up for your next situationship!
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